Do you guys remember the interview Thomas Middleditch gave to Playboy where he openly discussed how he was a “swinger”? That interview happened LAST YEAR. Last September! It feels like a lifetime ago, and I thought it happened in, like, 2016 or something. But no, just last year, Middleditch went on and on about how he has a swinger lifestyle with his wife Mollie Gates. It did not sound like Mollie was or is a swinger though. To recap, here are some of the worst quotes:
“Only after I got married was I like, ‘Mollie, I’m sorry, but we have to get nontraditional here.’ To her credit, instead of saying ‘F–k you, I’m out,’ she was like, ‘Let’s figure this out.’ To be honest, swinging has saved our marriage. We have different speeds, and we argue over it constantly, but it’s better than feeling unheard and alone and that you have to scurry in the shadows.”
“I don’t know how much I can say, because I don’t want my wife to be mad at me…It’s a perpetual state of management and communication, to the point where it’s like, ‘Alright, we’ve got to stop’ … I’m gas, and she’s brakes… I love my wife like I’ve never loved anyone before. With two people who feel that way about each other, how do you go down that road? It’s tough. Bring a therapist along for the ride.”
Regarding sleeping with fans, “That’s one of the trickier elements of it all, because Mollie doesn’t get that and yet she has to witness it. I’m like, ‘Come on, what about this chick who’s obviously really into me?’ And Mollie will say, ‘Yeah, she’s into you. Where do I fit in?’ That question comes up. It’s a game of inches on a minefield to try to predict who’s going to feel safe,. My first concern is Mollie. Anything that happens has to be run by the queen.”
[From Playboy via 2019 Celebitchy story]
It was all pretty disgusting. I tried not to be judgmental about it at the time because what do I know, but I felt sorry for Mollie because her husband sounded like a total douchebag. Well, would it shock you to learn that this marriage is over? I mean…
Thomas Middleditch and wife Mollie Gates have split after more than 4 years of marriage.
Gates filed for divorce on the grounds of irreconcilable differences, according to court documents filed on May 28, which were obtained by PEOPLE. Their date of separation is listed as May 22.
Gates, a costume designer, is also asking for spousal support. “They still care deeply for each other and will move forward as friends,” a source close to the couple tells PEOPLE.
Reps for Middleditch and Gates did not immediately respond to PEOPLE’s request for comment.
LOL, good for her!! I love that she was the one to file for divorce and I hope she gets a big chunk of his money. Let him be a “swinger” with all of his Silicon Valley groupies or whatever. It’s not just that he made it sound like he got off on telling his wife about all of the women he slept with, it’s that he revealed all of it in PLAYBOY without her permission too. And you know all of that sh-t was probably just the tip of the iceberg. I hope Mollie gets hers. I’ll buy a round of drinks for her.
Photos courtesy of WENN.
That right there is the kind of man who is into the swinger lifestyle because it gives him a wife to provide him with stable comfort, and one night stands who he’ll never have to hear point out that his scrawny dick wasn’t even worth the fake orgasm. Look at him. He literally looks like a two-pump chump.
Get that money, Mollie. It’ll at least buy you a womanizer vibrator to replace that womanizing dickvoid.
ALL OF THIS!
Plus you know he has attended a pick-up artist seminar at some point in his recent past.
I dated a guy who actually paid money for a pick up artist boot camp. We were already dating (not exclusively because he didn’t want to settle down… Red flag 1) and he told me he was going to LA for this camp to learn how to pick up women and he couldn’t get a refund (red flag 2). I had a hot new coworker at the time as well.
Long story short I dated my hot coworker, Tool went to boot camp and saw how hot my coworker was, said let’s actually be official and I said you’re not hot enough to be that big of a douchebag and he got too drunk on his flight home he fell and hit a seat armrest and got a big scar on his face.
“I’m gas, she’s brakes.” 🖕
@Teresa, HAHAHA! You go girl!
LMAOOOO
2 pump chump I LOVE THIS 🙂 spot on.
Two pump chump! What a great way to start Monday. Thanks for the laugh.
YES TO ALL OF THIS
At this point,I’d rather be married to my vibrator than to Thomas Middleditch to be honest.
Bazinga!!!!!!!!! that’s a good one
How great is womaniser though.
CB should do a sponsored advert for them!
😂
Get in, Daisyfly! I’ve no idea who they are, but I’m glad Mollie middleditched that slimy middlebitch.
Hahahaha yes to everything! Scrawny D for sure. Dirty little f*ckboy. Felt so bad for her after that article came out, hope she takes him to the cleaners.
What cracks me up is he’s the damn nerdy Verizon guy! Who would want to have a go with him?
He basically ruined the last season of Silicon Valley for me with these gross comments. Still haven’t watched it.
He sounds insecure AF, like he’d be an incel if he wasn’t famous.
Who the hell wants to sleep with randos because they are “into him”. Jesus take the wheel.
Exactly. It’s so great to hear that his wife is running for the hills. About time.
Exactly this. He is nowhere near attractive enough for all the bs he was spewing- which is probably why he was doing it. Even he couldn’t believe women were that into him.
I support polyamory and swinging and other non traditional relationship agreements but it seems like men are usually the ones trying to push them and fucking up the experience. You do not spring something like that on your spouse after marriage. And if it’s something that does emerge after you are in an established relationship, you don’t just bulldoze ahead, dragging your partner behind you. You talk and communicate and discuss and talk some more and if/when they are on board, you proceed and then you talk and communicate and discuss more and throughout the experience.
So many men who think they’re poly or swingers are just sex addicts and/or assholes.
I was briefly involved with a man who held himself out as being separated. I didn’t ask enough questions, of course. About a month in, it became apparent that not only was he not separated, but he wanted to hang on to his wife and keep playing with me.
They had been married for 30 years and suddenly he was interested in polyamory. I’m sure when/if he eventually told her-he did find someone more swing-y than me-it was quite the shock.
Asshole, I think…
” And if it’s something that does emerge after you are in an established relationship, you don’t just bulldoze ahead, dragging your partner behind you. You talk and communicate and discuss and talk some more and if/when they are on board, you proceed and then you talk and communicate and discuss more and throughout the experience.
So many men who think they’re poly or swingers are just sex addicts and/or assholes.”
^YES!! my now ex-husband pulled polyam on me and bulldozed ahead on it when I wasn’t ready, rule is you go at the pace of the most reluctant partner. I thought polyam was the issue in the marriage when i went to therapy in 2018, turns out he was the problem.
I’m currently dating 3 lovely men, and it’s all about communication and being present with your feelings. When it’s done well, polyam can be super fulfilling (pun totally not intended :P)
Oh I remember that story very well – he sounded horrendous. I was very skeptical that they had found an agreement that worked for the both of them. What a jerk.
He only told her that this was nonegotiable AFTER they got married?! Nice.
Right? What a jerk. Not only did he deceive her, but then he told the whole world about it, including how uncomfortable it made her and how they fight all the time about it. He’s lucky she didn’t walk out the door that day.
I always get irrationally annoyed when unassuming geeky looking guys turn out to be total douchebags.
Ugh, and they all claim to be “the nice guy.”
Who would want him? Yeccch.
Funny how Verizon seemed to be less into having him as a spokesperson after that interview. Wonder how much money they sank into ads that did not air. Communication, much?
I need a shower after looking at this twat; he’s that disgusting. Notice how he only told her he wanted to sleep around AFTER they got married? I imagine that at no point was he ever faithful to her. What a despicable loser.
That’s the thing for me. Not only did he tell her after they were already married, I really got the impression that he was the one screwing whatever randoms would have him and that the “swinging” was completely one sided. He’s repulsive and she’s better off without him.
What a way to treat your “queen”. A total douchebag. Bless her heart for going along with that in the first place. She’s free now.
And there is that word. No offense to anyone on here, but a man who calls his wife “Queen” probably isn’t treating her like one. Same with the term “the boss.” If a man uses that term for his wife, I already know they have a very traditional marriage and it’s likely not a partnership of equals.
But wow – I still can’t get over what a jerk this guy is.
@mcmom
YES! All of what you said!!
I missed this story the first time around, but holy hell!
Absolutely do not blame Molly for wanting to high tail it out of there. So many red flags he might as well have been a bullfighter.
Good for her because that interview he gave was a mess and it was only a matter of time before she was done.
Classic case of someone who really lucked out and married above their station and then got a little fame and money and forgot how lucky they were in the first place
Yup. Not sure if she was with him before he got his big break, but if so, I suspect he was just a dork before he got famous and when some women started getting into him because he was on TV he told the poor woman how it was gonna be. Hope she gets out with a great settlement.
Also, I’m not shocked this has happened after the quarantine
Alot of people forced to spend huge amounts of time together and not exactly enjoying the experience
Ha, good point. Can you imagine how insufferable he must have been not being able to hook up with random fans anytime he wanted. Ugh.
i love these follow up articles because i can read what i originally posted on the topic. oh boy, i was supportive of it because his wife knew about it and approved of it and apparently was sticking with him. i said the fact that she didn’t leave him implied she was fine with it and was not really our business. and now look what happened. yea he got what he deserved!
Here’s the thing: I’m recently divorced after a 10 year relationship and I have been seriously considering the ins and outs of open relationships. The concept is something that I find really appealing because if you’re both transparent and communicative, it can be a fulfilling way to live while still retaining the terms of your own needs. In fact, after leaving a relationship with abhorrent communication issues, the idea of sharing your wants while listening to the other person’s sounds quite nice. If everyone is safe and truthful, it could be a trusting, vulnerable partnership.
Of course, in this example, it seems like Molly wasn’t as into the idea and she was only catering to her husband’s needs instead of listening to her own-so this is not the kind of thing I’m talking about.
I’m curious as to your sincerest thoughts about the concept of open relationships, even though it appears that generally, this audience may not be a fan?
It’s the dishonesty and cheating, not the concept of an open relationship, that people are criticizing. I’d add, the lack of enthusiastic consent.
I think if both parties agree before the relationship gets serious- more power to you. My best friend is in one and while it’s not for me, she and her husband have been happily married for going on ten years now.
It can definitely work if BOTH parties are on board and if either person can call it quits at anytime. I’ve practiced ethical non monogamy in relationships. I see it as something to do together to experience but if it’s threatening my relationship that would be a100% full stop. Most swingers are in very stable marriages and are doing it as a team and to ad to an already great marriage, not looking to fix a bad relationship. It’s not for everyone but can work for some!
personally, an open relationship is not for me. i am satisfied with my relationship emotionally and physically, we have kids and I feel no desire for other experiences. i think it’s fine if others consent to have an open relationship if one person’s desires don’t match the other. lots of rich families accept it as a way of keeping the wealth in the family. my jealousy would be triggered and with all the other stresses in life the possibility that it could turn into an emotional attachment would stress me out.
Good for Mollie! I hope she’s able to recover from being treated so poorly and finds a healthy relationship with a man that doesn’t have to “get nontraditional” What a mega douche.
After I read this story last year, I had to stop watching his show.
I think his fame suddenly made him eff-able and all of a sudden he doesn’t want a traditional marriage and she needs to agree to whatever he wants to do. Immature jerk.
I’d offer a slight correction: I think his fame suddenly made HIM THINK he is eff-able.
I truly doubt so many women were throwing themselves at him that he had no choice but to start sleeping with them. In reality, probably a few women were like “hey, are you that (annoying) Verizon commercial guy?” and he then he’d hit on them.
Oh man I have thoughts on this development. First off totally not shocked. Beyond Silicon Valley what else has that guy been in? Point being he isn’t all that hot or apparently talented to get hired in something other than that one show.
As for her getting $$$$ I sure hope so but they were married for less than 5 years and some states now have laws where alimony for marriages less than 5 years means the support will only last the duration of half the marriage so in her case 2 years.
Know what would be icing on the cake. If she met someone from the swing scene who was also not into it for themselves but trying for their partner… and both want a traditional relationship…and left their shit relationships.
I think he did some verizon commercials, LOL
He’s actually main cast on a couple of shows right now – a voice role and a live action one. He’s worked pretty consistently. He’s not a huge heavy hitter, but he’s done pretty well for himself.
Now that said, he’s a douche, and none of this surprises me.
I love how disgusting men like this one say stupid shit to sound as very sexual beings and end up sounding just insecure and repulsive.
Go Mollie!!!
I was raised around mostly non-monagamous adults and I live somewhere where poly and open relationships are big. And all of that has made me so very not interested in any of it. For every person who works hard being open, honest, and present as an ethical slut (and there are many) there’s a narcissistic douche who borrows the language to gaslight their (usually femme) partner into feeling obligated to put up with a wandering eye. If you want to be a swinger, date another swinger.
I honestly think these dudes intentionally choose uninterested partners in the hope that they’ll get some regressive deal where they get to f*ck around while having a faithful-ish femme at home.
THIS! THAT’S Exactly it imo!
I couldn’t agree with this more i think this is true for this guy
Agreed, LidiaJara. I have met so many narcissists who say they’re into open relationships but when their partner is actually dating around they get angry or turn this into a competition with their partner. Or try to triangulate, comparing their partner to those they see on the side. Many open relationships have become excuses for sh*tty people to let out not only their unfaithfulness but their addiction to drama and love triangles.
What a creep.
I remember the original article well. I believe I commented on your coverage of it too. My husband and I had a good laugh about it. I really hope she has some fun and meets a man who treats her like the queen she is. Interesting that it took the quarantine to make this divorce happen.
I know he was trying to come off as cool, but he sounded like a horrible person. Who comes out as being non traditional after getting married?
Also “It’s a game of inches on a minefield to try to predict who’s going to feel safe”? Please tell me he didn’t play with her insecurities, because when I read that part of her being amazing for not getting divorce and trying to work things out… sounds as if she was trying to be a cool-girl, which sucks.
That article about him being a “swinger” stained my brain. He has a Netflix special with Ben Schwartz, who I love, but I can’t bring myself to watch because of this douche bag.
Same! I want to watch more with Ben Schwartz but unfortunately this douchebag is a frequent comedy partner of his. I hope he distances himself from Middleditch, because he seems like a decent person.
Well Mollie is a smokeshow. I have no doubts that she will find a lovely partner to spend the rest of her life with. I somehow missed this story last year but it sounds like she was really invested in making the marriage work…. all the happiness to her then. Thomas… good luck. Please stay single.
I saw this a few days ago and cheered for her dumping his lame ass. He sounds like such a jerk and she deserves a nice chunk of change for tolerating it as long as she did.
Tried swinging with my ex. We had some great parties with some beautiful people. But the couples that lasted were extremely secure. Every couple we knew who are still together met in middle school, stayed together for 20+ years before they started, and did theirnswining together. Everyone else exploded.
Oh I agree with this. My best friend has been married to her husband for almost ten years but were together for YEARS before that. They discussed their lifestyle with each other before getting serious and it’s worked out for them.
I remember this from last year too, what a snivelling creep he sounded.
Well done Molly, next time choose a partner who looks less like a startled hare. And someone who isn’t such a twat.
Ew, are there really that many women who actually want to sleep with that??
Maybe I’m the only one, but I have no idea who this is, and I’m a millennial (34).
Says they’re divorcing due to “irreconcilable differences.” Dollars to donuts that irreconcilable differences has a killer smile and a big dick.
Whatever two (or more) consenting adults want to do is cool with me. But I’ve known people (men and women) who use “polyamory” as a way of shaming / gaslighting their partner into agreeing with something that was not part of the original relationship and that’s what I hear in that interview.
Abandoned me in the Sahara and I still wouldn’t be thirsty enough for his literal neckbeard.
He has fans who actually wants to slpeen with him…? Really????…REALLY QUEEN? C´MON XD thats the joke of the day.
When an open relationship is not unilaterally agreed to by both partners then it’s selfish and inexcusable to dump it on your partner after the fact. I once had a boyfriend who, after we’d been together about a year, started having affairs with other women. When I found out (one was a friend of mine BTW) he mansplained it as “well you’re steak but sometimes a guy wants a hamburger”. Comparing me to meat did not go over well and I left his ass immediately and dumped the so-called friend. Good for her, she deserves better than this self-obsessed, preening little pencil dick.
So that nonentity changed the rules in the middle of the game and he told the world about that. I am more angry that she stayed after that BUT I don’t think he actually did much in terms of sleeping around because….honestly with that face and being almost a nobody who are these fans throwing themselves at him???
She probably thought she could make him change his mind and then the pressure from him was too much hence the divorce.
Playboy magazine truly brings out the starlets’ most douchey profile. They seem to have very good interviewers that squeeze all the tea. That interview was all levels of bad. I’m glad she filed for divorce and maybe next time he should disclose his preferences before comiting to somebody that is not. What an a$$
He is the most unfortunate looking man in Hollywood. In the world, probably.
That’s not swinging. That’s an ugly bloke who got famous and is punching above his weight. She’s far too good for him. Leave him to his groupies