Did you know that…

It’s very common for children with disabilities and additional needs to develop anxiety-led difficult and dangerous behaviour? When it happens, getting practical help, meaningful support, and the right advice in how to reduce these behaviour episodes is incredibly difficult. For decades, this issue has been significantly underacknowledged by our Public Sector Services. This means that very few of the staff who work within health, education or social services will have received any training on how to support families going through it, and very few services have been developed to meet the needs of this group of children and their families.

Parents get blamed when it’s not their fault, and often get given the wrong advice

In the absence of appropriate training, it’s very common for parents to get wrongly blamed for their child’s behaviour, and the focus of this blame, shame and judgement is often focused on the child’s mother. Parents are very often told that it’s all their fault because they are “too soft”, or because they are “making a rod for their own back” and that they need to parent in a way that is more authoritarian, harsher, stricter, and firmer, and shows the child “who’s the boss”.

It’s very easy for parents to internalise all this guilt and blame and to believe that it really is all their fault that their child is behaving in such extreme ways.

So, they do what they have been told to do, and parent their child as strictly as they can, with lots of sanctions and consequences, shouting and stress.

This wrong advice is more likely to make the behaviour worse, not better

Guess what usually happens next? Nearly always, the child’s behaviour escalates and gets far worse instead of better! Of course, it does! When a child is behaving in difficult and dangerous ways because they have extremely high levels of anxiety, this sort of parenting will only ever increase their anxiety, which, in turn, will make their behaviour even more extreme.

Nobody talks about it

The other thing that can happen to families in this situation is that they quickly learn not to talk about it, because nobody will really understand, and they will risk being wrongly blamed and judged all over again. When something is seldom discussed, families are left feeling abandoned, alone, and can start to believe that not only is it all their fault and that they are failing at parenting, but also that they are the only ones to be in this situation.

This is the day that could make all the difference to you, your child, and your whole family

Does this sound familiar? If so, it would be great if you could join us for one of our two days in July where you’ll get all the help, support, understanding and no judgement whatsoever. This could be the day that changes your family life for the better and gives you back hope for your child’s future.

Do you work with our community of families? If so – you’re very welcome to join us too!

We are always delighted to welcome professional staff members to our training and other events. We know how hard it is to access training about childhood violence among SEND children, and our events also give you a chance to sit down and chat with families about their lived experiences in a safe environment, something that can’t often happen in a workplace situation. When parents and professionals can sit down together and start conversations where there is no agenda other than to learn from each other – well, that’s when magic can start to happen!

During the day we’ll look at –

• Why this isn’t your fault, and it isn’t your child’s fault either.
•  What anxiety is, why it causes behavioural difficulties and how to identify your own child’s specific underlying causes of anxiety.
• Why all behaviour is a form of communication.
•  Why a child is most likely to target the people they trust the most.
•  Demand Avoidance – why children often can’t do what seems like fairly simple everyday tasks, and how you can support them through this.
• Controlling behaviour – why a child can develop a need to be in charge of everyone and everything at home, and how you can help them lessen this need for control.
•  How to reduce difficult and dangerous behaviour in your child.
•  Why self-esteem matters, and how to boost it in a highly anxious child.
•  How to reduce anxiety in your child and in you too – because anxiety is contagious, and when your child is overwhelmed, it can become pretty scary and overwhelming for your too. 

• How you can feel better about yourself and why your own emotional well-being is absolutely key to being able to help your child. 

• Hundreds of strategies. We’ll be sharing so may that there’s bound to be several easy, practical, and doable ideas that you can try with your child straight away.

Plus lots of time to chat with other parents who are living through this too, and lots of time to ask questions.

Newbold Hope - What we do

Since the beginning of the pandemic, Newbold Hope has delivered over 350 live online training sessions for parents of children and young people who have a disability or an additional need, and who also have extreme anxiety-led difficult and dangerous behaviour, including aggression towards other people and property.

Our impact

Due to our work, we now know of over 2,000 children and young people who have been supported to significantly reduce their extreme behaviour episodes in terms of frequency, duration, and intensity. Many of this group of children have been helped by their families to move completely beyond their very difficult times, and are now happier, calmer, and able to look forward to much more promising times ahead. Parents and professionals rate our training at well above 90% on every metric, with 99% of parents saying they would recommend it to other parents.

Autumn Masterclass Training Day Online 

Saturday, 19th November 2022 .

10am – 4.30pm 

£25 per ticket

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What parents have said about our training - 

“Newbold Hope changed my life and more importantly the life of my son”

“Our family life is significantly safer and more enjoyable since watching Yvonne's webinars. I now have significantly more faith and hope in my children's present and future.”

“Yvonne is just an absolutely inspirational human being! Her wisdom and understanding have picked me up many a time. The courses she does are excellent, and I regularly quote the things I learned to others.”

“Newbold Hope has transformed our family completely. We were dealing with several hours of violence every single day, and now I truly can't remember the last time we had any, whatsoever. My son is happier, more able to process his emotions, frustrations, etc, and our home is so much more peaceful.”

“Thanks to finding Newbold Hope, our children seem happier, calmer, and safer. The violence has significantly reduced. Yvonne's webinars have been instrumental in supporting us to adapt our parenting style to become better and more supportive parents to our children.”

“Since doing the Newbold Hope training we have gained a much better understanding of our son and therefor his violent and challenging behaviour is much reduced. I gained more from the webinars than I have gained from multiple professionals involved with our family.”

“At the utterly lowest point for our family, when we faced violence on a daily basis, you were a beacon of hope and unfailing support. Your advice saved our family”

“Your training and your group literally saved us. You gave me so much confidence and understanding and it felt like I was being wrapped in a cosy blanket when I needed it the most.”