Moving can be exciting, but it can also be stressful, not only for adults but for children as well. Whether you are moving across town or across the country, children require special attention during this transition time. There are many reasons for moving, and not all are positive, but keeping these tips in mind can help:
1. Have a family meeting to discuss your move. Explain why you are moving. Share as much information as you can, and be honest. Break the news in advance, but not too far in advance. The intention is for your children to hear about your move from you, not someone else. Encourage them to ask questions and express their feelings, but give them time to process. Tell them if they think of any other questions at a later time to write them down and you will be sure to get them answers. Open communication is essential.
2. Know your child’s temperament. If your child has a difficult time with transition, he or she will require more attention during this time, and you need to be prepared for this.
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3. Involve your children in the planning. Encourage them to help pack up their old room and set up their new one. Take them to the store to pick out paint colors and maybe a bedspread or piece of furniture for their new space. Encourage their opinions and participation. They will feel good about being able to help. Make it an adventure.
4. Work with your children to organize a moving sale. Tell them that the money earned can go toward something for their new home, like a new swing set, TV, or computer. Let them help you get rid of anything in the house that might not make sense for your next home. It’s a great time to purge.
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5. If at all possible, bring them to their new school ahead of time so that they can meet their new teacher. While you are there, spend time in the playground and visit the sights and stores in your new community. Make it a positive experience. If the move is far away, get them as much information about their new school and the area as possible.
6. Host a moving party and have your kids help plan it. Bake cookies or a cake with them. Children can have a difficult time leaving their friends, neighbors, and classmates. Make this party a fun event. Let them plan a trip back if possible.
7. Pack a special moving bag for each child with his or her favorite toys and items. Keep it close during the move.
8. Once you have moved, try to keep their routines as similar as possible. Things will change, but whatever you can keep familiar and regular will help your children adjust. If your children are having a difficult time with the transition, let their new teachers know. It’s not unusual for a child to experience times of sadness or angst. Be understanding, but don’t give into an all out pity party.
Remember: Your children will take their cues from you.
Marjorie Youngren is a broker at Century 21 Commonwealth in Lynnfield. E-mail your questions to marjorie.youngren@commonmoves.com. Follow her on Twitter@MarjorieTeamC21.