How to deal with partner's disappointment finding out the sex?
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Last post: 20/07/2016 at 1:41 pm
Anonymous
19/07/2016 at 6:36 pm
So we had the gender scan today, my partner was SURE it would be a boy as it runs in his family and as he had no dad he really wanted to build something with his son... But we are having a girl!
He says he is happy just a little disappointed and needs time to let the idea settle but I wonder if anyone's been through it? How can I make him bond with the baby a little more as he seems really disappointed?
He says he is happy just a little disappointed and needs time to let the idea settle but I wonder if anyone's been through it? How can I make him bond with the baby a little more as he seems really disappointed?
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Anonymous
19/07/2016 at 6:43 pm
my oh was so sure our baby was going to be a boy but was told at the scan she's a girl. it was a shock to him at first but he came round really quickly now we have our little jessica and she is deffinately a daddy's girl just give him a bit of space and I'm sure he will come round x
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Rachael A(185)
19/07/2016 at 6:49 pm
Don't worry. It's only natural to have these feelings. He can't help it- Just as some ladies feel a bit gutted if they are hoping to have a girl or a boy and find out its not. It doesn't mean you won't love the baby or bond. It's just a shock that's all. He will get over it in a flash and will be excited to have a little daddy's girl. Sometimes we can't help our feelings I'm afraid xx
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Anonymous
19/07/2016 at 7:16 pm
I understand completely where you are! My oh and both sides of the family all thought we were having a boy because they run in both families and they are all clones of each other but we found out it was a girl. Oh was over the moon but fil was a bit miffed about it because he was sure. He's come round to it now and loves picking out girly little outfits and stuff. We just kept mentioning what it'll be like when she gets older and starts having boyfriends and kids etc and he was like oh heck no!! That's my little princess and she'll be getting locked away till she's 30!
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Anonymous
19/07/2016 at 7:22 pm
My hubby wanted a boy and ended up with a girl.
We had a surprise with her as right up to birth we were convinced it was a boy.
Our daughter is a total daddy's girl. Plays rugby and races bikes with him. He couldn't ask for a better son lol!
We had a surprise with her as right up to birth we were convinced it was a boy.
Our daughter is a total daddy's girl. Plays rugby and races bikes with him. He couldn't ask for a better son lol!
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Amy R(667)
19/07/2016 at 7:45 pm
I find this a bit sad tbh. Maybe you shouldn't have found out if he was going to be disappointed??
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Anonymous
19/07/2016 at 7:51 pm
Last pregnancy my hubby wanted a boy even asked at the scan 4 times to make sure she was a girl he was fine tho and she's such a tomboy lol they are so close too and this time round we are having another girl and he said after we found out he wanted another girl he will be fine it's more shock and not knowing how to deal with a girl I think x
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Rachael A(185)
19/07/2016 at 8:00 pm
In answer to
Amy R(667)
I find this a bit sad tbh. Maybe you shouldn't have found out if he was going to be disappointed??
And then he would have felt the same at birth too. What a narrow minded thing to say to make OP feel bad. We are all human. We all have genuine feelings- you might wish you didn't have certain ones but we still all do! It's a bit like when you were young and hoped your parents would drive into macdonalds for dinner...and then they drive straight past...you feel incredibly disappointed..but hey..You'll get over it! Lol
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Rachel A(554)
19/07/2016 at 8:31 pm
It's not sad at all. A lot of people, male and female I might add, can have gender disappointment. It doesn't mean you will love the child any less. Me and my oh are having our first child and we were both convinced we were having a little girl! We, and all of our families, just had a gut feeling we were having a little girl. We were all wrong at the scan and for a slight second I will hold my hands up and say I was a little bit upset. Not upset because I was having a boy, I can't wait to meet him and love him more than ever thought possible. I was just upset because I was convinced we were having a girl and being hormonal it took me a few minutes to get my head around it.. I literally am so happy to be having a boy now and I am so in love I could literally scream!!! I know some people say you should just be thankful for being able to have children and should only want a healthy child, but it can be upsetting for people. Especially if they have always had an image of a little boy/little girl! Trust me, give your oh a few days to adjust and he will be over the moon!!! Good luck and wishing you a healthy pregnancy xxxx
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Anonymous
19/07/2016 at 9:30 pm
Thanks for all the replies 
he's already asking about names etc... So I think he'll get over it
he's already asking about names etc... So I think he'll get over it 0
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Anonymous
19/07/2016 at 9:49 pm
I was the one that had gender disappointment in this pregnancy. I wanted a girl but I'm having a boy. But I've come round in my own, I guess my OH knew me well and knew that was the best way to handle the situation. I've started to buy him clothes
Your OH will come round give him time. It might not be a quick thing (I found out at 20+4 weeks and I'm almost 29 weeks) but he will come round xx
Your OH will come round give him time. It might not be a quick thing (I found out at 20+4 weeks and I'm almost 29 weeks) but he will come round xx
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Anonymous
19/07/2016 at 9:57 pm
In answer to
Amy R(667)
I find this a bit sad tbh. Maybe you shouldn't have found out if he was going to be disappointed??
Top Tips: He'd have found out at the birth 
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Anonymous
19/07/2016 at 10:07 pm
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Anonymous
Thanks for all the replies he's already asking about names etc... So I think he'll get over it
he's already asking about names etc... So I think he'll get over it Aw good it's just a little bit of panic initially or at least it was for my hubby lol
I said on way home from the scan she doesn't have to be girly I'll buy her red clothes he said no n straight away went shopping for pink and girly stuff....my daughter now 4....biggest Tom boy I know with her karate belt backpack tutu and welly boots as a regular outfit choice [emoji4] x
I said on way home from the scan she doesn't have to be girly I'll buy her red clothes he said no n straight away went shopping for pink and girly stuff....my daughter now 4....biggest Tom boy I know with her karate belt backpack tutu and welly boots as a regular outfit choice [emoji4] x
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Anonymous
19/07/2016 at 11:44 pm
In answer to
Anonymous
So we had the gender scan today, my partner was SURE it would be a boy as it runs in his family and as he had no dad he really wanted to build something with his son... But we are having a girl!
He says he is happy just a little disappointed and needs time to let the idea settle but I wonder if anyone's been through it? How can I make him bond with the baby a little more as he seems really disappointed?
He says he is happy just a little disappointed and needs time to let the idea settle but I wonder if anyone's been through it? How can I make him bond with the baby a little more as he seems really disappointed?
I wouldn't worry hun once he meets his child he'll be over the moon with her x
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NA (4)
19/07/2016 at 11:55 pm
Once the baby is here he will be in love with her, everything else goes out the window so don't worry it will be just a phase he will go through. A baby is a baby boy or girl
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