Reconnect With Your Mom. Here's How.

Are you looking for your mom?

Maybe she gave you up for adoption years ago.

Maybe you had a falling out.

Maybe she abandoned your family, and you never figured out why.

Don't let another year pass living with regrets. In the wake of these past few years, it's more evident than ever to never take the ones you love for granted.

If you're ready to start searching for your mom, it's easy. Just search her name on TruthFinder.

Have you ever asked yourself, “How do I find my mom?" or "How do I find my dad?". If you answered yes to either of these, then you've come to the right place! TruthFinder's People Search could unveil important details to help you reconnect - or at least learn more about her.

It's hard enough dealing with the pain of missing a parent. When you first consider how to look someone up, especially if it's your own mom, the uncertainty of what you'll discover — and the possibility of meeting her face-to-face — may bring up emotions that you've suppressed for a long time.

Want to search for your biological mother? Even if you're not ready to welcome her back into your life, we make it simple to learn how to find someone you lost contact with.

Preparing to Search: Who Is My Mom?

There’s a lot you can learn when you reconnect and find an absent parent. Before you get in touch with your mom or want to find a family member, ask yourself these questions:

• What am I hoping to gain from connecting with my birth mother?
• Does my mom have any hereditary issues that could affect my kids or me?
• Does she have another family — and do I have family members I never knew about?
• Do I want to know why she left?

You might not want the truth about where your mother has been or why she disappeared. You might just crave a connection with the person who brought you into this world. Do you look like your mom? Do you act like her? You might get relief just knowing what sort of person she is.

Find Your Mom with TruthFinder

If you are prepared to start your search, you could get the chance to rebuild a relationship that was torn apart when she walked away or left your life. You may not be ready to get in touch. And that's OK. You might change your mind once you've gotten to learn more about her. The more information you're armed with, the better you can evaluate whether or not you'd actually like to reach out.

Here's a step-by-step process of how to find your mom with TruthFinder:

1. Gather What You Know

To start your genealogy search for your mother, write down everything you know about her, including her name, age, and the state where she last lived. Don't know those details? Check your birth certificate (you can also check/order your birth certificate from VitalChek if you do not have a copy), and use the name and city listed there.

You can also ask family members. If your mom got married, divorced, or remarried, her friends or relatives might be able to fill in the gaps.

If you don't know your mom's age, that's OK. Just guess how old she was when you were born. And if you can't find her other information, don't worry! Just write down everything you can remember.

2. Use an Online People Search Tool

Once you have your best guess of your mom's first and last name, run it through  TruthFinder's people search tool. If you know your mom's state or middle initial, plug in that info, too. A TruthFinder membership gives you access to unlimited reports, so you can pull as many person reports as you want. This could come in handy if you want to look up any new spouses or siblings you discover during your search.

In your Person Report, you could find:

• A full name
• Aliases
• Age and Birthday
• Possible Relatives and Associates
• Contact information including phone numbers and email addresses
• Social media profiles
• Possible locations
• Criminal and traffic records
• Assets
• Bankruptcies and liens
• And much more!

You may consider looking a the reports of your mother's possible relatives as well. With a TruthFinder membership, you have access to unlimited person reports so you can view as many reports as you like. You never know; there could be a half-sibling out there that you never knew about!

More Tips for Finding Your Mom with TruthFinder

Still having trouble finding your mom with TruthFinder's People Search? Try these steps:

• Look up your mom's relatives, friends, or neighbors.
• Search your father's name.
• Search for people she last lived or worked with.
• Search yourself.

See any unfamiliar names under the report's "Possible Relatives" section? It could be your mom!

• Search old phone numbers. If you know your old number (from when your mom was still around), run those digits through a reverse phone lookup. Her name and information could show up in a TruthFinder report.

TruthFinder updates its databases every 24 hours, so check your reports often to see if any new details show up!

What Can I Find With TruthFinder's People Search?

TruthFinder's people search tool could reveal in-depth details about your mother. A Person Report may include the following:

Contact information — Do you want to get in touch? A report can show you phone numbers and email addresses tied to her name.

Aliases — Did your mom change her name? Does she go by a nickname?

Related people — Do you have relatives you never knew about? Perhaps an aunt or uncle, or maybe even a sibling!

Addresses — Where has your mother lived? Where does she live now? The report's "Locations" section can reveal her past and current addresses. This could be key to determining if, how and when you might reunite in person.

Criminal history — Has your mother been arrested? Has she gone to jail? While a criminal record doesn't tell the whole story about someone's past, it could be a red flag in your book. You may want to tread carefully when considering a reunion.

Social media profiles — Does she use social media? You could potentially find your mom on Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, and other social media sites. Get a glimpse of her life before you get in touch.

Disclaimer: The above images are from a Sample TruthFinder Person Report. Actual TruthFinder Person Reports may contain more or less information

You can view all this information with the peace of mind that TruthFinder searches are confidential. Your mother will not be notified by us that you looked up her name or information with TruthFinder.

Will you reconnect or avoid contact with your mom? That's up to you! At least you can use TruthFinder to decide.

I Found My Mom — Now What?

So you found your mom on TruthFinder! What's your next step?

Our advice: Don't push it. Take your time to decide how to contact your mom — and what to say when you do.

Try testing the waters with an email or Facebook message. If you call her first, you risk letting your emotions get in the way of what you really want to say. In your message, be clear about why you're reaching out.

Do you want to rebuild a relationship with your mom, or would you prefer to just get closure on why she left? Maybe you don't want her in your life. Maybe you just need answers.

Whatever you decide, keep in mind that this will be a shock for your mom. Don't expect her to respond immediately — or to give you the answers you've been waiting for. You took your time tracking her down. She needs time to absorb the fact that you've re-entered her life.

If you decide to meet your mom in person, pick a public place. Tell a friend or family member where you're going, or have them come along. Your mom is blood, but she's still a stranger!

Find Your Mom Today with TruthFinder

Your mother could give you a million reasons for being absent from your life. Even if you don't reach out to her, at least you don't have to live with that giant question mark of where she's been all this time.

You deserve to learn about your family history! Use TruthFinder's People Search tool to find public records for your mother. With the info you find, you might finally get closure — or start up a new relationship — with the woman who brought you into this world! Don't spend another year wondering or waiting. Start your search today!  

By Blake Altice