Earlier this year, Hilaria Baldwin – Alec Baldwin’s younger wife – announced her fifth pregnancy in six years’ time. That pregnancy ended in miscarriage in April, which she also announced on her social media. She didn’t wait very long to try again, and by September, Hilaria and Alec were announcing another pregnancy. And four months along, this pregnancy has ended in miscarriage as well. Poor Hilaria and poor Hilaria’s body. She posted this message on Instagram, along with a video of her daughter Carmen comforting her:
We are very sad to share that today we learned that our baby passed away at 4 months. We also want you to know that even though we are not ok right now, we will be. We are so lucky with our 4 healthy babies—and we will never lose sight of this. I told Carmen and took this so I could send it to Alec. I guess this is a good way to share it with you too. I told her that this baby isn’t going to come after all…but we will try very hard to give her a little sister another time. I’m really devastated right now…I was not expecting this when I went to my scan today. I don’t know what else to say…I’m still in shock and don’t have this all quite clear. Please no paparazzi…that’s all I ask.
I feel sorry for her and I hope she recovers, and she is clearly going to try again at some point. As I get older, I feel like the whole “listen to your body” advice becomes more and more real – I used to ignore that advice and I was like “I’ll tell my body what to do, thank you very much.” But your body does its own thing and you have to listen to it. Hilaria is still young (she’s 35) and she had four back-to-back pregnancies and now back-to-back miscarriages in the space of like six to seven years. I’m not a doctor and obviously I’m not qualified to give medical advice, but my reproductive system is screaming just thinking about what Hilaria has done to her body.
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I feel sorry for her, I too had that awful experience. She is lucky to have 4 kids already, so maybe leave it at that?
Yikes. That’s pretty rough. She’s lucky to have 4 healthy children here, but unlucky enough to suffer a second trimester loss, her second loss this year. If she wants to try again that’s her prerogative.
yeah, I think she should stop now. she already has 4 children to take care of, alec is too old to be a dad for sure and she went through a lot. she should enjoy with her children and take care of herself. that’s my opinion. and about her sharing it on social media… I don’t know. if she’s doing it because she wants to live an authentic life that could be healthy, not hiding your emotions, knowing all those emotions are normal…but if she’s doing it because she has some psychological issues then that’s something else. I don’t know which one it is. but I do feel like there’s something suspicious here. especially that need to have a lot of kids very quickly knowing their father probably won’t be able to take care of them for many years.
God, that’s so sad. I think he statement was really impressive though – the “we’re not okay, but we will be” was very candid, and still optimistic despite everything that’s gone on.
I don’t like the Baldwin’s, but I do feel genuinely sorry for her. Nobody wants to go through that, and I’m sure it’s especially heartbreaking to happen back to back. She clearly is someone who LOVES being a mother, so I do hope she’ll eventually get her rainbow baby.
Same. And even though she probably shouldn’t have involved the daughter, I think it’s fine for her to share her experience on social media.
Oh man. That’s terrible to lose another pregnancy so far along back to back. I really feel for her. Her body her choice but if it were me, I don’t think I’d be able to do it again.
That’s so sad. I wish them the best.
Sorry for their loss. But I do find it odd that everything that happens to her goes straight and quickly to social media. She found out the news that day and then posted the loss that day. Why not take some privacy time and then post a few days to a few weeks later.
And to post video of your daughter as you told her? Ugh-so invasive.
a video that was originally meant just to go to ALEC. i don’t know why the public has to see such an intimate video that was made for her husband. does she keep anything private?
Ugh she did? You are kidding me. That is gross.
I am sorry for her pregnancy losses, but this woman is just too.much. ALL the time…
But please no paparazzi? I mean, it doesn’t work that way. If you overshare everything on social media, it’s unrealistic to think that you aren’t going to draw more press attention to yourself. Which is generally what she likes to do.
Not to be too b*tchy this a.m., but this is also why you don’t tell people you’re pregnant until after the first trimester or so is over. Things happen and miscarriages are unfortunately more common that some people think.
Ugh, I sound so heartless. I don’t mean to. I do feel sorry for her, because having a miscarriage is just awful and two in one year…I just can’t imagine.
Well, she was four months along, so outside the first trimester.
I think the point of her sharing her pregnancies and losses is just to try to take away the secrecy and shame and private pain of miscarriages. There is a movement now towards people just…sharing their happiness and their pain as it happens. Instead of pretending you’re not pregnant and hiding all the phsyical pain and emotional happiness that entails and then pretending you didn’t just suffer a loss. To each her own. No one has to share if they don’t want to, but I support people being vulnerable if they want.
They announced it 2 months ago though, so it was really early to announce.
I feel the same way. I’m very sorry for their loss, especially if their kids were excited and they really wanted another child. However, I find her running to social media immediately and sharing very private moments to the world to be very off putting. And she needs to stop with the “no paparazzi” nonsense.
I hope they listen to her doctors and don’t do anything too quickly to cause more stress on her body, and that things go better for them in the future.
Yikes @thaisajs your comment has really touched a nerve. Firstly, she’s well outside the first trimester – but secondly: “this is also why you don’t tell people you’re pregnant until after the first trimester or so is over” – why, exactly? Because we shouldn’t share our pain? We should keep this horror to ourselves for fear of upsetting others? THIS ATTITUDE IS EXACTLY WHAT LEADS TO FEELINGS OF SHAME, INADEQUACY AND ISOLATION IN WOMEN THAT MISCARRY. (Women like me in case you couldn’t tell!). We should be more open and honest and supportive. You should feel like you can tell whoever you what WHENEVER you want. Do you know how amazed I was to discover how many people I knew had also had miscarriages? Your attitude – society’s attitude – is exactly why they’d felt they needed to keep quiet and suffer in silence.
Lady Baden-Baden…I came to say the same, as I have also lost a baby, but you nailed it. What a dishonor to the life that was there…to just stay silent and carry on as if it never happened.
For the women I know who went through this, it wasn’t so much a fear of upsetting others or trying to stifle their grief, but more wanting to reduce the risk of the additional heartache of having to tell everyone about the loss if they made a big public announcement on social media or something. For a public figure that has to be even worse.
Whatever a person’s decision, no one should have to live in shame and suffer in silence, and I fully agree that people need to be honest and supportive. I do see a LOT more women talking about it, so hopefully that is changing.
Yes, Lucy2, that’s what I always thought too. During that early uncertain phase of the pregnancy, you are trying to spare yourself the heart-ache of having so-and-so wrapping their arms around you in congratulations because they heard about the baby, but not the miscarriage. Having said that, I agree that we heal better when the people around us know what we’re going through. It seems crazy to have to show up at work with a smile plastered on your face because it’s a secret.
This is my opinion, also. I’ve had 3 m/c and 3 healthy pregnancies. Nobody but immediate family knew I was even pregnant, so I didn’t need to tell many people. To me it was so personal, so I don’t get her need to share it with the world. ( Just like those gender reveal parties. ha) Her choice, of course, but I don’t know what she gets out of it.
I lost 3 in a row last year and I am at 33 weeks now! Due next month with my second girl.
I find Hilaria a little insufferable but I’m always glad when people normalize this … because miscarriage is often a normal part of reproduction. That said, it’s absolutely confusing and heartbreaking when it happens to you.
Congratulations and best wishes for the rest of your pregnancy!!
I’m sorry for your losses and for Hilarias. I can’t imagine the grief she is experiencing so if she wants to post it on IG, then she can.
Ugh I’m so sorry for your losses. That’s wonderful you’ve made it to 33! I agree with your thoughts here. Thanks to celebrities and people on this website sharing stories and normalizing it I was able to casually discuss my (5+ years ago) miscarriage with someone the other weekend (randomly, in the context of a psychic predicting my pregnancies and the sex of my first baby) and it didn’t feel like I had to keep it a secret or talk around it.
All of this: “Miscarriage is often a normal part of reproduction”!!!
I also had 2 miscarriages in between my two healthy boys & it’s part of the process for me. I lost one at 4 1/2 months & that sucked, but over time I realized that it was never going to a baby who just happened to die like an accident or something- there was something vitally wrong with those cells, dna or whatever that it wouldn’t develop into an actual human being. I find the fact that I had two healthy boys as the miracle it is & thank my body for being able to try again & handle all that goes into this reproduction machine.
Wonderful news and best wishes for your babe! I have two kids and two angel babies that always live in my heart. I am lifted up every time anyone can be open about the horrible pain of these losses. It helps. Every single person, every time, it makes me feel a little less alone.
Thank you and I agree that talking about and normalizing it on a societal level is important. Not to get all dystopian, but especially in times when governments wish to aggressively police women’s bodies and reproduction. In those kind of oppressive regimes miscarriages are often looked upon with suspicion and even criminalized as the woman’s fault.
Sending you all the healthy vibes and warm wishes to you on your upcoming birth journey!!!!
I’m kind of torn here… on one hand, it’s good for your children to see you honestly manage difficult emotions… on the other, is it deleterious for this young child to feel so invested in trying to make her mom less sad? That’s a potentially pretty big burden for the child to bear.
A very sad situation all around, and my sympathies for all mamas who have experienced this.
I never told my existing kids about being pregnant until I was safely pregnant. My 17 year old asked me if I ever had a miscarriage and was genuinely upset when I told her I had. She’s always wanted another brother and she asked me about it for a few days. Really, I could have lived with her never knowing that.
But imagine one day your daughter herself has a miscarriage. Don’t you think she will feel a little less alone knowing you had one too and she can talk to you about it? Finding out from my friends and family who had miscarriages (after I miscarried) was so comforting.
So you waited until you delivered to tell them? Because there is no “safely pregnant” A loss can happen at any time during a pregnancy. As a pregnancy loss survivor my heart goes out to the Baldwin family.
She was 4 months. That’s well into 2nd trimester, when people usually consider it “safe” to tell. I certainly had told my then 5 year old about his upcoming sibling. On tiny women who’ve had previous pregnancies, you often show sooner. It’s likely she was visibly pregnant!
@ohpioneer
My oldest was only 17 months older than her sister and 4 years older than her brother. I felt safely pregnant by the 5 th month. Waiting for a new sibling can seem like an eternity for a toddler/pre schooler. No need to tell them so early.
Also, most pregnancies are safe after 3 months. Why scare pregnant women into thinking their pregnancies can end at any point? Nobody’s health is ever ‘safe’ despite precautions.
I do feel sympathy for her. Sad situation but, and please don’t kick me for saying this, 6 pregnancies in 6-7 years, 2 miscarriages…they need to stop. With 4 healthy children, my best advice is focus on them, seek grief therapy over the miscarriages, and accept this is your bio limit. She seems to be obsessed with having more babies. Is this her only self-worth?
Additionally, stop living in the social media.
Alec needs to assist their current family by getting a V. At his age, her # of pregnancies in such a short time, indicates to me that it is time to stop.
never mind. Just not worth it. LOL
I think you’re on to something. To me, she seems like the type of person who doesn’t really reflect. She never seem to stop and think, just keeps moving and is never really in touch with her feelings.
The reason I say this is because I know people like her who overshares on social media and are staying at home moms. Their husbands are the breadwinner and somehow they think babies and yoga will fill the empty emotional holes they all have.
People will attack me for saying this, but it’s a certain type of person, and she is it.
Not bashing stay at home moms, btw. They rock!
They’re not all like this one, just saying what she reminds me of.
They don’t need to do anything & having two miscarriages along with four healthy pregnancies is not actually a bad ratio. Miscarriages are not indicative of your “bio limit” or your body talking to you- it’s a very real, probable outcome of becoming pregnant & it’s not abnormal. The fact that she had 4 healthy pregnancies says she can likely do it again, if she wants.
I know you’re getting hate… but I agree with you. Does the world need so many children? Overpopulation is a problem. Anyway, my two cents that nobody asked for.
Short interpregnancy intervals are associated with adverse maternal and fetal outcomes, ideal is waiting 18 months, so she truly should take a beat to let herself heal mentally and physically. Pregnancy loss is terrible and my heart goes out to her.
I was thinking this also. Pregnancy and then breastfeeding is a huge drain on your body. Hilaria does seem to also try to snap back to a fairly slim physique between pregnancies, and while I know some women do that naturally…in her case I am sure there is some good old calorie restriction going on too, which does increase the odds that she’s not replenishing her body’s supply of things like iron, calcium, folic acid, vitamin D, etc., between pregnancies. I do hope she takes a break (of at least 6 months) before trying again.
Also, not to be indelicate about this, but Alec’s swimmers are probably not quite as sprightly as they used to be, either, so it may be even more advantageous to give herself a wee bit of a rest for a while.
Advanced paternal age increases the risk of miscarriages among many other things.
I’m sorry that she had a miscarriage, I really am. But there is something very, very, Very wrong with her to post all of that on SM. She needs therapy.
AMEN
This ^^. Addicted to fame and attention, that is all.
… aww… no pregnant bikini shots then? darn.
Of course it’s sad but she already has 4 kids. There are plenty of women that can’t have children. Maybe her body is telling her something? Also, do we really need to hear ALL your personal business??
I feel very sad for her and her family. And I think it’s everyone’s choice to share what they wish on social media. With that said, I feel uncomfortable she shared this moment with her daughter for the world to see. I can’t really explain why, but it feels wrong to share such a private moment when her daughter is too young to consent to allowing the world to see this raw moment? I don’t even know if that makes sense. I’m uncomfortable with it though.
It makes perfect sense to me, I’m always harping on celebs for sharing their kids online before they’re old enough to understand it and consent.
I also don’t understand filming that moment to begin with.
I’m very sorry she had a miscarriage. I still find her irritating.
Same here. I am very sorry for a miscarriage at any stage, for everyone.
But in my opinion, this IS her only self-worth: what she can show off in front of a camera lens. I think it’s also generational: “pics or it didn’t happen” mentality. Honestly, I may be part of the “Get off my lawn!” generation, but I do NOT get having to document (pic n’ post) EVERY meal you eat, EVERY brain fart, EVERY SINGLE THING you do during the day… WITH THE WORLD! With your family, friends, ok… but SM is really out of hand.
Ditto!!!
I am sorry to her and all the Celebitches who have suffered pregnancy loss.
I am sorry to her and all the Celebitches who have suffered pregnancy loss.
Also-she has a sister. Hello, Ireland?
To be fair, she said she was going to try to give her a “little sister”. She’s got 3 younger brothers, so its understandable she might be longing for a younger sister.
I feel horrible that she’s had two miscarriages back to back. I can only imagine how devastating that could be. Nobody deserves that type of loss. Maybe her body is telling her it’s time for a break. She has four babies and maybe that’s enough. I am super private and cannot imagine sharing something so devastating to the world. But she isn’t me and if sharing something so raw helps her heal, then who am I to judge.
Personal peeve here. I can’t stand when people say they are trying to give one of their kids a little brother or sister. No. That’s just wrong because
1. you are not giving them anything, the baby is not a doll. the baby is actually your lifetime responsibility and
2. you may not even get a girl when you try again.
That being said, spacing kids is up to what she can handle. my mother had 4 kids in 4 years and a miscarriage in between. I don’t know how she did it but it’s a personal choice.
I am sorry they lost their little one but at the same time I have never seen a bigger attention-ho. She annoys me.
Yeah, it bugs me too. I am in a boat similar to her, but reversed – I have 4, 3 girls and a boy. We always said we’d go up to 5, but many assume that we want to give our son a brother. It feels weird to hear that. If we have 5, and 4 are girls, we’d be grateful for the blessing. If it’s a boy, we’d feel the same. I am one of 5 daughters, and we got plenty of comments about our dad having no sons. I have never gotten the concept of “trying” for a particular sex.
Her body, her choice. I am sorry for her loss.
She should probably just give her body a rest for a year. Just some rest.
That will likely do the trick.
Once you reach a certain age, the body just stops bouncing back.
This was my biggest nightmare every single time I went to the doc. I would hold my breath until the heartbeat and scans came back good and I never even had a loss. I was never ‘good’ until after I had that baby out and in my arms. Life can be so unfair. Wishing them all the healing vibes. Heartbreaking.
I mean her hormones are probably all over the place after all Of the pregnancies and noe miscarriages. It taket a loooong time for some women to get balance back no matter hos much yoga you do.
My hormones are still not back to normal 3 years after I stopped taking my contraceptive. After you hit 30 your body will act differently.
And also: “I told her that this baby isn’t going to come after all…but we will try very hard to give her a little sister another time.”
Try very hard, lol.
Her body has gone through A LOT with 4 pregnancies in 5 years and 2 consecutive miscarriages. Hopefully she will give her body the rest it needs, process their losses and try again if they do wish to have another child.
Miscarriages are usually whispered about so I’m happy we can now talk more openly about what they mean and represent to so many people.
This is really sad to hear but maybe her body is trying to tell her ‘let’s take a break for a bit’. She’s had a lot done to her body with children close in age and then with two miscarriages perhaps she needs to give her body time to rest and heal. My heart goes out to anyone that has struggled with miscarriages.
This is gross and private and is clearly used for her continued exposure/clickbait. I can appreciate the sadness of the moment – many women in my family failed to carry to term – but this turns my stomach. And then to have the audacity to say “no paparazzi, please”. As if she’s not inviting them with her endless social media coverage.
Is her family concerned at all about her behavior?
She clearly was distressing her daughter with her emotional state. It is well known she has several nannies so its not like she is caregiving 24/7 and can’t get privacy from her children to be emotional and then regroup. So she melts down in front of her poor kid, the child is so freaked out, then Hilaria recorded it and exploited it on social media to generate pity. I agree with others, something is very very wrong with Hilaria. She is now taking smiling selfies before her d&c. This is just raising some serious alarm bells about her mental state. Is she not receiving emotional support at home thus the reaching out on social media or is this just a narcissistic attention grab? I hope she gets into therapy either way.
I believe 100% that she isn’t receiving adequate emotional support at home. She took this video to send to Alec Baldwin. I doubt he’s the type of person to sit around trying to comfort his wife after something like this. This strikes me as a plea for help, and if I were her adult friends, I’d stop by and check in with her regularly.
My best friend’s mother had her and her siblings because she needed to feel like she had someone, she needed to not feel lonely. Her kids basically became a parent for their mentally ill mother and has huge issues with it now when they’re grown.
Hilaria reminds me of their mother. She keeps having babies because she’s trying to fill a void in herself and use social media for some sort of comfort. She needs therapy, perhaps a diagnosis, and I hope the kids don’t grow up parenting her emotional needs.
A miscarriage can be (is for many) traumatic, and I’m so sorry for her as a woman to see that she is suffering. My mother went through a lot with pregnancies including multiple miscarriages. I agree that children should be shielded from the trauma as much as possible until they are older and can handle it better emotionally. At the same time it also horrifies me that people would want to have child after child knowing the state of the world and climate. I suppose it is something I will not understand because I do not have and probably never will have the kind of financial privilege or security in life that she and many of you seem to.
…so people are supposed to stop having kids b/c of climate change? what horrifies me that there is study after study that says 20 corporations and overuse of plastic are 100% responsible for the destruction of the earth but people still come online and act like it is a bloggers fault. until you give up all gas powered appliances and drive a car that runs on organic vegetable oil that you grow, harvest and press yourself – i think you should should save your horror for actual atrocities.
Overuse of plastic hey, who might be doing that then? Would it be the 7 billion and rising number of people?
@ange – the companies that use it for cheap packaging and manufacturing…and places where water is polluted by corporations and governments and isn’t suitable to drink…like flint where people have had to use bottled water for years for a completely solvable problem.
Yikes! There is so much victimhood in this statement & that’s a definite barrier to understanding others.
I don’t want to judge her for posting a video of her child comforting her. I’m just going to say that that’s not okay and leave it at that. I believe her when she says her miscarriage was wholly unexpected. She has always been about the whole healthy lifestyle thing, and no doubt it’s a blow because she probably never thought it could happen to her. I find a lot of people assume automatically that if you had a miscarriage, you must have done something wrong during your pregnancy. This is a really really gross attitude to have as a whole for a lot of reasons. I’ll bet she’s struggling with not blaming herself right now, and I hope she’s doing okay.
I think she likes pregnancy because she can pose for pictures in her lingerie. Oh… look at my bump.. and also my sexy black lacy pushup bra. Beyond insufferable.
That is a lot to put a body through in few short years.
THIS
I am wondering if this is happening because he is older?
I think it’s courageous that she shared this news with the world (though involving her daughter who is too young to really understand what is going on, that’s not so good). There is so much shame around miscarriages, even though it’s so common. And honestly the whole rule about ‘don’t tell anyone too early’ is probably WHY so many women suffer in silence when they lose a pregnancy. Because people close to them don’t even know! It needs to be normalized. My mom suffered several miscarriages, she and my dad tried for like five years, and I was their last try. (When my sister came along two years after me, my dad thought my mom was joking when she told him she was pregnant and laughed for like an hour. The doctor couldn’t believe it either.) I figured it out when I was about six because my mom paints keepsake Easter eggs as a hobby (she blows out the stuff inside so they’re hollow and you can keep them that way) and there was one egg tucked away in her special box with an angel on it for “Our Baby, 1991.” But I wasn’t born until April 1993. I thought, she would have told me if I had had a big sister who died. She would never keep something like that secret from me! So maybe something happened to the baby before it was born. I didn’t talk to her about it until I was a teenager, and then she told me all about taking the hormones and losing all of these pregnancies. I can’t even imagine how painful it is for women to go through this kind of loss.
I am not understanding that there is shame around miscarriages. While it is something I think is painful and often kept private among couples and families its only because its too painful to discuss.
People often keep certain health ailments such as cancer private until they feel okay sharing, if ever. Keeping something to yourself does not nessecarily equal shame. No one is blaming her at all for this and everyone has sympathy for her. I think she is using the shame angle to justify her over sharing. I think she may not be getting any emotional support at home and thus overshares in inappropriate places/to inappropriate people such as social media followers. I believe there is a phrase for this now- “Sadfishing.”
Why isn’t she having these conversations/sharing these thoughts with the people she has intimate relationships with? I am just concerned someone close to her needs to step in here with her and make sure she isnt going through this alone. Something seems very wrong with the way she is processing this. There has to be a line drawn somewhere between what happens IRL and social media and she doesn’t seem to have one. As a mother of 4 young children, I really think she needs to find that line.
There is no shame or stigma regarding miscarriages. It happens all the time. Stop trying to make this another thing to be “ shamed.”
This reminds me of how this year or last there was proposed legislation in which US state(s)? that would make someone a woman who’s suffered a miscarriage liable for investigation/ prosecution.
It still makes me scarlet with rage.
I think she’s looking a little outta control,, having that many healthy babies, gunning so hard for more, putting her trauma on that little kid, plastering the whole thing on social media, and asking for “no paparazzi” … but I do think there is a silver lining to speaking out about miscarriage overall. Large, still-scarily-powerful political factions on the American Right are trying not only reinforce reproductive taboos but also attempt to persecute women who miscarry via actual LAWS.
Is it okay to lighten the mood for a minute? Is it just me or is her face like a chameleon? When she changes her hair or her make-up she looks like a totally different person to me. When I saw the picture with the blondish hair, I thought, Who is that with Alec Baldwin?!?
I had a healthy pregnancy.
Then bt my daughter birth in 2012 and getting pregnant with my son (born in Jan 2016) I had 4 miscarriages.
Since having my son I’ve had 3 or 4 miscarriages
They last of which was at 12+ weeks and almost killed me (I lost more than half my blood, passed out and hit my head so hard u needed staples; then had to get 2 transfusions and a d and c).
Anyway I bring all this up (again as some Celebitches will recall) bc miscarriages can be devastating and emotionally they can break your heart.
Bc if the my last one in March we are done having kids. Even though I’m so longing for a third. I have to remind myself how blessed I am. And that my body is telling me Um maybe no?
That all being said it is not cool at all to put the emotional burden on a child who is too young to understand. It is exploitative of her to post that – I actually didn’t watch but I’m basing it on what was written- I can’t watch bc I find it a violation of that poor little girls emotionally well being. She shouldn’t be comforting her mother when she needs comfort herself bc she was invested in the pregnancy. She is a child.
Ugh.
My heart aches.
I’m so sorry for your losses. That sounds so difficult and heavy to deal with.
I watched the video and it’s really not as bad as some dramatic people are claiming. Hilaria is mildly teary but not crying and her daughter is, as young kids do, not really sad and just giving her mom some kisses. Kids that young don’t really comprehend loss and death the same way as adults. I’ve been explaining death in simple terms to my 4 year old since our cat died last year and she clearly still doesn’t understand it or fear it (which I’m grateful for!). As for whether she should post her kids without permission – that’s another topic of discussion that people have strong feelings about and I’m not touching.
According to Daily Mail, She just posted a selfie of herself on the table after her D&C, draped in medical cloth, coming to from anesthesia. I mean Im truly scared what she is going to post next- a photo of the fetus?
She needs a psychological intervention, asap. Using a miscarriage for likes and comments from strangers on SM is so disturbing to me. It gives me the chills what she is doing. Can you imagine what the doctors and nurse are thinking as they watch Hilaria take SELFIES of herself through this operation? I bet their heads are exploding with WTF!!!
When she can no longer exploit her pregnancy and miscarriages for her attention needs, whats next? Scary thought.
My cousin just had a miscarriage at 5 months so the whole family knew about her pregnancy. Her amniotic fluid was leaking. From what I understand she delivered the baby and it shortly passed after birth (so not stillborn). They named her (it was a girl) and cremated her and she will be buried in a few weeks. I can’t imagine what she and her husband are going through. She had a miscarriage in her first pregnancy as well sometime around the end of the first trimester. She does have a two year old son so her second pregnancy was viable all the way. There is no rhyme or reason to miscarriages sometimes.
I feel bad for Hilaria but her body has been through a lot, several pregnancies and miscarriages. So while I feel bad for her, I wish she wasn’t so extra on social media about everything else. I’m fine with her announcing miscarriages/pregnancies but I think she does need to take a step back to take care of herself and her existing children. Also I wonder if Alec is secretly relieved, I don’t think he wants more kids from comments he’s made. If she wants to have more kids that is her prerogative of course. But Alec is older and that affects his ability to reproduce. I’m surprised she was able to have 4 back to back honestly the way she did!
I think two different issues are getting tangled up on this thread.
On the one hand, yes, it is great that woman are starting to speak out about the miscarriages they have suffered. It shouldn’t have to be a secret, they should not feel shame, and I imagine it can help to know how common they are. I am all for that.
And being “all for that” means that I have to allow Hilaria to share as she sees fit as well.
BUT…I do think that in general, this “Life via the SM Lens” is a terrible thing. A family member died recently, and before the immediate family had left his side, saying goodbye at the hospice, some other family members had already posted the “news” to SM. It literally was the FIRST god damn thing they did. And it meant other family members found out ON SM. That is the kind of thing that just seems gross to me.
Taking photos in the room during your D&C seems performative and SM-obsessive. I don’t think she has to hide the truth, I don’t think she has to keep the fact that she had a miscarriage private. And perhaps judging the woman who is going through that is NOT the right way to go. But I think it is just such an extreme example of how SM is used. For me, it isn’t so much that she is OVER-sharing, but more of the “immediate sharing” aspect of it.
There is no shame in having a miscarriage. It’s nature telling you the fetus is not viable. I think it’s shameful to take endless post miscarriage selfies, especially while having a D&C,
Doesn’t she have a one year that’s probably still breastfeeding? I imagine that takes a ton of nutrients from the body and she hasn’t tried to wait a lil over a year the way Dr’s recommend.
Plus isn’t Alec like 61 or 62?
That’s rough :/
As much as miscarriages can be devastating, I’m sorry but I don’t have a lot of sympathy for this woman. Her husband is nearing geriatric age. He may not live to see his 4 kids even reach the age of 20, and yet she is still pushing for more babies rather than focus on the many healthy ones they are already extremely blessed to have. Hilaria is literally a Dugger at this point! Listen to what your body is trying to tell you lady! This type of broodmare mindset is really disturbing. If you really love children so much that you must have more, then perhaps as a next step, look into adopting a child that is already in this world. You have the resources and all the time to do it. SMH
She strikes me as a troubled person – like deeply sad and needy….and then to be married to the awful person that is Alec Baldwin and be on this mad dash to have as many babies as humanly possible. Godspeed.